Last Updated on 20 mins by Eva
New mothers cry a lot. Here are the 5 most common reasons why every new mom feels down the first few months.
Motherhood is a monumental change. And apart from unconditional love and indescribable happiness, it brings also tears. A lot of tears.
There’s nothing that can really prepare you for motherhood. You might hear some advice from your more experienced friends or family members.
But that’s really just a tip of an iceberg. Being a parent is something you cannot truly understand until you become one.
Your days are filled up with diapers, burps, and feeding around the clock.
Although motherhood is a natural thing for a woman, it also requires gaining some skills. It’s a learning process. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed sometimes. Well, okay… most of the time.
Adjusting to motherhood can take longer than you think. According to a study led by a baby brand Munchkin, it takes almost 5 months for a new mother to adjust to her new role.
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Give yourself time. Time to heal.
Time to grieve the old you. Time to learn new skills.
One step at a time.
New mothers know that this is a different level of tired. Lack of sleep is something that took a huge toll on my mental wellbeing when I became a mom.
You just can’t think clearly when you are exhausted. You spend your days in a weird brain fog. Pretty much everything makes you cry because you are so freakin tired.
Besides your mood, sleep deprivation also affects negatively your metabolism, which makes it difficult to lose the baby weight. Sleep deprivation disrupts hormones by triggering a cortisol spike.
Cortisol, a.k.a. the stress hormone, tells your body to save energy to fuel you while you are awake. What that means is that your body is more prone to hang on to fat.
Theres so many things in our body that are affected by hormones.
Breastfeeding, night sweating, hair loss, brain function, appetite, mood swings, sex drive. You name it.
We all know hormones are usually going crazy during pregnancy, but there is actually so much going on in your body during and after labor as well!
Our body has its own ways how to reduce pain during childbirth – it does that by increasing the levels of oxytocin and endorphins. In new mothers that have transitioned to the postpartum stage, estrogen and progesterone start to decrease quickly.
What is even more interesting, estrogen directly impacts dopamine and
serotonin, known as the “happiness hormones”.
And because our postpartum bodies have just started to reduce estrogen levels, we might experience baby blues or even postpartum depression.
The good news is:
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Breastfeeding is considered to be the most natural way to feed your baby.
And while that might be true, it’s not all roses. That makes it one of the top reasons why do new mothers cry often.
The thing is:
Most new mothers are totally unprepared for whats breastfeeding really like.
You read all the positive stuff promoting breastfeeding as a wonderful experience that will help you to bond with the baby. Or that it will help you to shed your baby weight.
While this might be true, at times when I was struggling with breastfeeding the most, I felt like a failure. Embarassed that this supposedly natural thing does not come natural to me at all.
If I’d known the truth about how difficult it might get, I could have saved myself all that negative self-talk and rather reached out for help. Which I eventually did, when struggling to breastfeed my second son.
It is a mix of feelings
It takes a little time to figure things out. You might even need support if you have other issues. This often triggers tears as you might become frustrated from trying to get hang of it.
Then of course, you will cry because you are worried your milk is not good enough, or you dont produce that much as your baby needs.
And last but not least – leaky or engorged boobs. No nursing pads seemed to work. Made me cry a lot.
Nursing your baby for the first few months really is a mix of feelings. While watching your baby as it feeds fills your new momma’s heart with so much love you never knew you were capable of, at the same time you are going through so much physical pain.
It hurts so bad the first weeks. At my worst, it felt like my son had hundreds of razors inside his little mouth.
I remember I cried every time I fed my son, with cold sweat running down my forehead. Because it was just excruciating.
If youre struggling, please get help. A good lactation consultant can make a huge diffrence in your confidece and the whole breastfeeding experience.
Last, but definitely not least. These are the tears of joy!
Motherhood is messy, overwhelming, painful and oh-so-hard. But at the end of the day, the painful stuff will fade away, you will manage to banish the overwhelm with your new mothering skills.
All the bad things will seem unimportant eventually. What is left is the tears of happiness while looking at your sleeping baby (because that’s when we love them the most, lol).
What caused you to cry the most as a new mother? Let me know in the comments below!